Refuges
- Part 1 -
Be Grateful for What You're Given
I see a lot of comments online about refuges and how they've all been trans inclusive, on the basis of self identification, for decades, without incident.
Stories and receipts from the genderist assault. This is our side of the onslaught.
So, first thing first - I got into gender critical feminism via a genuine concern for the people I know and have known - including trans people.
For far too long, I was confused as to why women who appeared to be saying rational, nuanced and inoffensive things were being mercilessly attacked by people I thought of as decent. And after being answered grudgingly with mantras, contradictions in terms, told I should read about it, - I did - I went to 'educate' myself. And everything changed.
Before, I'd held out an embarrassing benefit of the doubt (this was, in reality, doubting my own senses and downplaying my own dignity and safety after a lifetime of gaslighting) for appalling bullying, strawmanning and abuse, watching women being dogpiled and preferring - like Ayesha Hazarika - to be nice, accommodate and concur, or at least keep it quiet.
But that isn't really who I am; I enjoy debate and don't shy away from disagreement. The obvious lies, transparent rhetorical tricks, the repetitive slogans and determined stupidity was burning at me.
So, given all this, I began compiling my own little gallery - almost to remain sure I had seen what I thought I'd seen. The final straw was when I actually thought back to all of the earlier assumptions, self censorship and cognitive dissonance I'd carried for so many years.
After living through decades of abuse from various men, starting from early childhood, I stopped subduing myself with drugs and alcohol and excuses; I got therapy; I learnt to acknowledge the unwitting part I played in my own oppression. And I realised, I wasn't living as the brave and outspoken type I thought I was. I understood I needed to question things more, listen to others, especially other women.
I also realised how deeply damaged I had been by my experience years ago with a purported transwoman. I finally allowed myself to see this person as the man I knew he was. I'd always disliked him, thought his behaviour was shocking and recognised he was scum, but what I hadn't done is speaak, even think, without self censorship. And I suddenly realised how screwed up it had all been, and just how wrong it is.
I had a son, and I realised how crucial my issues were to resolve, lest I pass it onto him and harm another generation.
This essentially boils down to actually showing integrity and bravery, not drunken, projected anger or shouting along with the mob. Listening and thinking a lot, feeling and acknowledging I was scared, and doing it anyway. Because it's the right thing to do.
I had to speak out on the harms of gender identity activism, for more reasons than I can [easily] list.
So this blog sprung up, between myself and my friend. It was meeting her and comparing eerily similar stories I realised what's actually happening to us.
We were both abused as children, both homeless before the age we could leave home legally, both serially sexually abused, drug and alcohol addicted, both accommodated with a sex offender who identified as trans.
Above all, I've met some incredible women. I was staggered at just how much other women, who appear so much better off than me or my friend, go through. I found it so shocking to realise just how atomised, how separate from other women I had become. Because of men. I never knew just how much we shared.
We, as women, can go through life completely unaware of the barriers we have between ourselves and other women. Sisterhood is a precious thing. Same sex spaces are sacred.
Of all the friends I've lost of the way, the vast majority see themselves as allies, rather than being trans. Some of my trans friends have shared this journey to a degree, and are equally angry. I love them more now, and while I won't always agree with them I appreciate their support. I also worry how they too will ultimately be impacted by this insanity.
They are not represented by the activists behaving as grandiose, misogynistic, arrogant, authoritarian maniacs.
What is happening then, if those who actually commit to transition aren't being aided by the most aggressive activism around? I think it's deeply sinister.
As I'm quite the archivist, my devices are overloaded with screenshots of tweets, subreddit posts, Facebook comments. I am trying to sort them into a series of catalogues. There's something about galleries that has a particular impact. While we may be uninhibited on social media (unless you've reason to fear the thought police, like Marion Miller, Maya Forstater, Harry Millar etc) and it may show the worst extremities, it still illustrates a culture that many seek to dismiss.
This blog started with The Rich Fantasy, a list if trans identifying sex offenders, murderers etc. Now, rather than trying to match the exemplary work of Dr Em, Genevieve Gluck or Jennifer Bilek etc, I'm going to focus a little on one powerful element of this movement - sexual entitlement.
There's bound to be a tonne of overlap, but these will all be under #SRM = Sexual Rights Movement. I'm speculatively splitting it up into;
* Rape Victims & The Right Side of History, which is thus far almost entirely made up of responses to my friend and I when speaking about our experiences
* Autogynephilia
* Sissies
* Porn & Kink
* Paedophilia & Bestiality
* Sexual Violence & Misogyny
* Sexualisation of Children
* Breaching Boundaries and Sexual Entitlement
Hopefully these will all be up within the next week or two..
Note;
I saw this yesterday. It absolutely appalls me this is the reception a parent with a dysphoric teen would receive.
For more on hormone blockers and childhood transition, desistance and detransition, the suicide claims, the conversion therapy argument see here.
This focuses more of detransitioners again, and My friend and the mob is a personal story
Continuing on our hall of fame (part one is here, part 2 is here ) we have; Peter Tatchell, Sarah Brown, Morgane Oger, Jess Bradley, Tanya Love, Eli Erlick, Mya Burn and Alice Avizandum!
After alleged harassment online, Ms Bird was brought before a disciplinary hearing to face a complaint in the name of Zoe O’Connell, on behalf of the LGBT+ Liberal Democrats. Ms Bird had “expressed troublesome views”.
The hearing found no evidence to support the complaint of transphobia, and she says that allegations of transphobia were a smear by O’Connell, who is trans. Ms O’Connell denied all knowledge of the case or that she was the complainant. When asked if there was another Zoe O’Connell, she did not respond.
So, that's nice. Three people in a relationship, all in the Lib Dem's LGBTQ+ executive, harass and bring vexatious complaints against a woman who has used refuges, because she disagrees in an insane open door policy.
Here, Brown is accused of bringing in policies which breach the Equality Act, again in collusion with O'Connel, another councillor. It led to Brown's predecessor resigning in outrage.
23) Morgane Oger
Oger is a Canadian politician who campaigned (successfully) to have Vancouver rape relief centre deprived of funding because they are strictly female only.
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Here Oger compares the wish of a 13yr old girl asking for a female counsellor after being gang raped to white supremacy
Harassment of a feminist at the women's march with a banner:
“Apparently not everyone at the Vancouver Women’s March was equally enlightened about why trans women are women… A concerned citizen passed this photo on to me. This is hate speech. Anyone know who this person is? I’d like to speak to her."..."We have six months for somebody to file a complaint against this woman on the basis of gender identity. But to do this, who she is needs to be known. If somebody knows who she is please email me the information at..."
Oger gets much needed support from friends;
None of which I see being challenged at all, and indeed the post is still up with these comments.
Crazed Beliefs!
Oger has previously defended Jonathan 'Jessica' Yaniv when the 'wax my balls' cases were being brought against thirteen different beauticians - almost all women of colour who worked from home. Yaniv has a long documented history of racism, especially against Asians and people with turbans. In addition to the vexatious claims against women unwilling to wax Yaniv's testicles in their own homes, Yaniv has been accused by multiple girls of sending them sexualised messages, openly fantasising about using shower rooms with little girls who have their 'tampon strings sticking out'. Oger deflected attention and continued to defend Yaniv until it was completely untenable.
Oger also likes to think they are a mother to the two children they had with their ex wife, the actual mother
24) Jess Bradley
Jess Bradley became the first trans person to be elected as student's officer, a paid position. After some amazing bits of advocacy - here and, best of all, here.
I recommend the second video there, as it is where Jess bemoans their 'impossible vagina', which, according to Jess, might actually just be their penis? Anyway give it a watch.
Activists brave and stunningly decided to do a... different kind of Vagina Monologues as Jess felt excluded from the category of women, or people with a vagina and obviously that's fucked up and needs sorting out pronto. I myself have felt excluded by health information campaigns on prostates and know the pain. So it's a good thing they accommodated the 'non binary woman' bio male Jess, who has had no medical transition, because the modest, stoic, meek vagina Jess describes is just delightful.
Ultimately though, after all this stellar work, Jess was discovered with a blog which involved animations of incest and photos of "her" penis out at a bus stop, on a train, in parks, and at her distinctive curved desk at the NUS. Incredibly, in the wake of this, Jess found the funds to hire Carter-Ruck, renowned anti libel lawyers made famous for the non disclosure agreements and super injunctions used by famous footballers wanting to shut down media reports of infidelity.
Jess was later also accused of sexual harassment and assault. Here, Jess's ex wife here has some words of wisdom, along with a fair bit of apologia. Here's the genuinely great Rose of Dawn, who does an excellent job of covering the whole mucky bucket.
25) Tanya Love
Tanya was elected women's officer for Telford Labour Party.
Here's some of Love's online behaviour
The local Labour party responded;