You are and are not X, Y, Z. As told by a 20 something 'queer' with green hair
The mother responds with heartbreaking gratitude and apparently a continued faith in the group's wisdom and her ignorance, and is immediately slapped back down with the warning about speaking on her own feelings;
Now, the story that the child was never her 'deadname'. This woman never had a daughter. She has just discovered her hitherto daughter was a son, presumably flattened under the oppressive weight of 'his' mother's expectations. She's no valid right to grieve, she's lucky 'he's' still here.
I can't imagine a more cruel gaslighting
Don't be your child's first bully!
Here are some terrifying statistics (utter lies) and a bullshit analysis. Obey us or plan your child's funeral. Oh, and get over yourself.
Ahh, the reality check from people who believe an adolescent girl can discover she is a boy, and her mother must instantly accept it.
In this version of material fact, grieving is 'commonly associated' with death, which is some top notch insight. Now this means it's bad to grieve, because also it's the happiest time of their life (?) and the selfishness of grief will be noticed.
Simultaneously deadname is a term and she can not like all she likes, but better tell her face otherwise.
Meditate on the child. Force your brain to rewire, wash away you cis-pectation with endless repetition that will set them up to expect the same obedience from everyone else.
This woman hits it out of the park with her championship bum-suckery. It's plain as day the bad mum's problem is down to a lack of educating herself.
That this person is still placing the focus of the child, referring to her as him and centreing her feelings makes no difference. Out comes that fastidious moderator again...
No gesture of sympathy must be allowed to escape the words of advice
Outrageously, two other parents add care reacts. One is removed. Applause: 'Legendary'. 'Martyrs'.
You must live only through a benign, vicarious trans joy. Although presumably that would require dousing with frequent stories of suicide. Got to keep that energy just right.
The moderator can't allow this, the bare hint of 'cis' expression.
Of course, it is extremely harmful.
'I was just trying to be gentle' - but that isn't allowed. Also, FtM might be 'triggering'
Anything can be triggering, in fact. The words are now spinning plates of subculture, every revolution bringing about another terminology and making another, former one a hateful, triggering slur.
For example, a woman uses the acronym AFAB. This is triggering and is basically informing the group of her child's genitals;
Wow this woman responded so perfectly. She must have won today's competition disguised as support group.
'Deadname was Deadme' Your child has just taken their first breathe, and here you are, bitching?
Oh but actually, and unfortunately, this new life isn't going so well. But Trans Joy* remember?
Transition cannot fail; it can only be failed
The aim is to leave people questioning. Almost like they desire, need, someone to be interested in them, isn't it?
In this version the mother is unreasonable and possibly creepy for caring about what genitalia the child has, as if these are poised to change any moment.
Also, she has nothing to grieve. One has to assume the horrific time supposedly endured by all trans people all day is not for her to worry about either - that would be negative.
My burning instinct is to tell this woman - this mother doing her absolute best in a society almost entirely captured by an incoherent, harmful and overwhelmingly narcissistic ideology - this;
There could be another way. That there is another way. These people are talking shit, their idea of what's enabled them to live their true self* and be truly alive is making them suicidal, and they still hold out this is the only option.
That she is clearly a loving mother with legitimate concerns, but this group is the podium of insufferable, indoctrinated oddballs wielding the only power they have; ideological faith.
The only advice this group will give is to instantly affirm, medicate and crush any sense of perspective outside of meaningless hashtag sloganeering.
That she must, as a mother worthy of the term, entirely bottle up any grief and fear, deal with it in private, out of the home, and fast.
If I do this, I'll be removed as soon as you can say 'unsafe'. This is happening everywhere, and it needs exposing.
This group is run by a decidedly snap-happy MtF who strives to educate the public on their area of expertise (real and valid self alignment with large, prosthetic breasts and frequent selfies in low cut, leg-flashing attire) being 'mother' to several kids, one of whom's coming out as trans spurred on their own self acceptance. Largely, this advocacy work is done by hectoring others with angry 'sit down!' rants and bitter tales of their ex wife.
This trans identified female is furious her mother has spoken of her grief. Here is the advice;
Understandably, to those who aren't narcissistic warriors of the new truth*, one mother takes offence at the ruthless assault on mother's endemic to the group;
Considering other's needs is what any decent mother would do. Always. Constantly. To the exclusion of all else (especially her own feelings)
The irony of a much younger, brainwashed and simple young person telling a grown woman to respect her elders is lost.All trans people are elders. They hold wisdom beyond our pitiful, cisnormative imagination.
Mod! We need the mod with their doctrine!
Gloriously, this woman is done with their spiteful superiority complex and tells them all to fuck off:
Which, obviously, is just her being a self pitying cow.
Like lambs to the slaughter, another mother steps forward;
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